A Craft that is good for your marriage? What?
Before I get to the craft idea, I need to give you a little back story. If you don’t care on how I arrived at this project, just scroll on down!
I’ve been married almost three years now. I don’t think this is abnormal but I have seen that I go through seasons in which I tend to be more snippy and disrespectful towards my husband. I’ve also noticed that the longer I am married, the easier it is for regrettable comments to fly out of my mouth. I tend to overlook this sin in my life and chalk it up to me just being a tell-it-like-it-is person.
I didn’t think it was too much of a problem until my husband brought it to my attention and shared how damaging my bold words can be to him. I initially vowed to be kinder to my husband. I tried to be nicer and withhold snarky comments. However, I’ve learned time and time again that behavioral change will only last so long. This situation was no different. There needed to be a change in my heart towards him if my words and behavior were going to change. One would think I would remember that lesson by now!
As I began to focus on the heart change I needed, I started with thinking about this verse:
…for the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. (Matthew 12:34)
Our words, the things we say to others and about others, are an overflow of what is going on in our heart.
I began to realize that I was focusing on the weaknesses of my husband rather than his strengths. I was thinking about all the ways I wished he WAS and not dwelling on the way God intentionally made him. I was losing sight of all the things I was thankful for in his character and his life.
In Romans, Paul tells us that if we want transformation in our hearts, it must begin in our minds (Romans 12:2). So, I started there – with my mind (with the Holy Spirit’s help of course!).
I began to mediate on a great verse from Philippians and applied it to my marriage and the thoughts I had towards my husband. Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things (Phil 4:8).
I realized if I made one of these for my husband and committed to keep it updated, it would keep me focused on things I love about him. I would be actively looking and noticing things that are Christlike and praiseworthy (just like the Philippians verse tells us to do).
My project has only been in action for a few days but I have already noticed how I am making mental notes of things to put in his frame. It not only trains me to see the good in him but gives me an excuse to tell him and encourage him in the ways I see God working in his life. It’s a win-win!
For me, this was a good way to put God’s word into action. It was one of many practical steps I needed to take in order to pull me out of my season of harshness. I’m not saying a fun little frame like this will fix all the struggles in your marriage but for me, it was one step closer to becoming the wife I want to be.